Relationship Series – Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
When you are in a relationship; no matter how long you have been together and no matter how well you get on, there will always be little insignificant arguments or petty fights! None of these arguments really have an affect on your relationship, and it’s okay not to agree on everything, but wouldn’t it just be nice to have peace and harmony in your relationship?!
There are going to be times when your partner does something, or doesn’t do something and you get a bit cheesed off with them, and visa versa, but it doesn’t have to result in an argument or fight, wouldn’t it be easier to just let it go?
Something small could result in a long drawn out argument where each person starts to bring up past fights, which is never good and prolongs the negativity. Nobody is perfect and there are always going to be “faults” in each person, but why make this an issue, they wouldn’t be the person they are without the good, the bad and the ugly!
I am also not saying that my relationship is perfect, and letting go of the little things is something I have learned along the way. I will also be talking in a separate post about working as a team, and how when you do that, it reduces the need for little niggles and reduces the number of potential issues to argue about!
Creating harmony in a relationship takes work, but when you have sussed out what really matters and realised that you would prefer to enjoy life together without bringing each other down with petty arguments, it’s totally worth it!
Housework and essential jobs are a good example of where a silly argument can start. If your partner has forgotten to put some washing on, or not thought to hoover the house or take the rubbish out whilst you were away, yes it can be annoying but try not to dwell on it. Ask them nicely to do it or even offer to help, that way it does not seem as though you are nagging, or having a dig. However; I am in no way
saying that you should always lie down and let someone take the mick, if your partner does not do their equal share of jobs or is neglecting their responsibility and always lies with one person doing more, then this is the time you need to sit down together and have a serious chat!
I hope that this small insight into one of the parts of a relationship I have come to learn about has given you something to think about, and next time your partner leaves their dirty pants on the bedroom floor or does that one thing that really gets on your nerves… just let it go!
“Disclaimer – I am in no way shape or form a relationship counsellor, and everything I share with you is based on my own experiences and opinions. I am simply sharing this in the hopes that it may be helpful to some, fully understanding that it may not be helpful or to the interests of others”